FINDING A new balance between work and PLAY

Posted: 05/07/16 | March 7th, 2016

Last month, after suffering from enhanced anxiety and mild panic attacks, I stepped away from this website, spent a lot of time alone, went hiking in Patagonia, and sought to rebalance my life.

I needed to clear my mind and come back to everything in my life with fresh eyes.

As a travel writer, I share all the places I go and exciting things I do. It’s easy to think of my life as continuously moving from one fantastic thing to the next. but social media and blogging present a warped image of my life, because all that gets shown is the good stuff.

You don’t see the days I spend in cafés, the sleepless nights, the hours spent writing or searching for an Internet connection. Running a site with over one million monthly visitors is a full-time job, and when you throw in a penchant to start new projects (a blogging school, a charity), and a travel conference, I’m too often the busiest of bees. I like staying busy — but there’s busy and there’s overworked.

It wasn’t until I threw on my backpack again that I realized I was overworking.

I had bitten off much more than I could chew; I was juggling too numerous balls. I couldn’t work full-time, travel full-time, and also find time to just delight in the moment. As a consequence, everything suffered.

I love this job I have created. writing is cathartic for me, and this blog is as much a journal for me as it is a travel guide for you. and I also love immersing myself in a destination, starting new businesses, and being on the move!

On their own, all the things I love in my life bring me remarkable joy.

But I realize I simply can’t juggle everything anymore. This site has too numerous moving parts, my nonprofit is picking up, and I want to get offline more. trying to do them all at once implies I can’t do any of them well and they become sources of anxiety, not joy.

I hadn’t discovered this before because I was doing them all while at home in new York City.

But then I went on the road — and I felt like I was drowning. I just felt a weight on my shoulders I never felt before. I couldn’t delight in anything.

While in a hostel in Argentina, I was sad with envy taking a look at the travelers around me without a care in the world. They were just there soaking it all in. None of them had to wake up for an 8am meeting or worry about video submit speeds. They could just delight in the destination and worry about work when they got home. It didn’t travel with them.

Over the last few months, the thought of doing anything has left me paralyzed with anxiety. I found no pleasure in anything. each time I did one thing, I thought about all the other things I wanted or had to do. If you haven’t experienced anxiety, you don’t know what I am talking about, but it’s not a good feeling to feel helpless for no reason.

So, sensing how things were going, I took February off and started the process of trying to get back to me. I spent weeks by myself. I went hiking in Patagonia. I deleted emails. I kept the computer shut. I went to bed at a normal bedtime. Ho letto molto.

As time went on and I stopped juggling so numerous plates at once, the eye-twitching anxiety melted away. It was lost somewhere on the W trek in Patagonia.

As I came back online and into my old life, I realized the same patterns were slowly re-emerging. Intentions are great, but actions are all that matters. All I learned about the cause of my problems (trying to do it all) was being pushed aside by old habits.

I need to untangle my life and create new patterns where my passions bring me joy, not panic. and one of those new patterns is changing how I deal with work.

I love this site and the community we’ve created, but I have let the nature of the Internet control me. It never shuts off. It’s there 24/7/365. because I’m a workaholic, I don’t know how to stop. If I don’t set boundaries, work will consume me even even more (through no one’s fault but my own) and that’s no good.

So I’m announcing some changes:

I’ve taken email off my phone. No longer will I check my emails and be a slave to my device. It’s felt fantastic no longer continuously reacting to a ding like Pavlov’s dogs.

I’ve amended my email policy to be clearer on what emails will get a response. It’s too hard to keep up with 200 emails per day. As much as I want to help everyone, I am only one man.

I’m taking my weekends back and no longer working outside Monday through Friday. (My team is helping enforce this.)

For the time being, I’ve chose to stop answering comments on this blog. I went back and forth on this, but it’s something I need to do best now. I love reading your reactions and seeing everyone interact with each other and can always be reached through email, social media, or the forums, but for now, I will no longer be responding to comments on the blog itself.

And, many dramatically, I am no longer going to travel and work at the same time.

Questoè la causa più significativa della mia ansia. Sarà solo l’uno o l’altro. Quando è in viaggio, il computer rimarrà a casa. Sono al meglio e al più felice quando posso concentrarmi su ogni cosa individualmente. Sono molti entusiasti di ciascuno quando stanno lontano l’uno dall’altro. Ma quando sto cercando di mescolarli, mi portano molto stress.

Potrei trattare con la giocoleria prima, ma non più. Per tornare al mio luogo contento, ho intenzione di concentrarmi su ciascuno separatamente. Quando a casa lavorerò. Quando sono in viaggio, viaggerò come una volta … come ho visto quei backpackers a Mendoza. Questo viaggio in Australia è l’ultima volta che porterò il mio computer sulla strada con me.

Questi sono grandi cambiamenti per me e ci vorrà del tempo per abituarsi a loro, ma so che creare confini e limiti mi impedirà di impazzire e voler far scoppiare Xanax come caramelle. Roma non è stata costruita in un giorno e la salute mentale è un lungo viaggio.

Ma, mentre lo scrivo ora in Australia, mi sento più libero. Le piccole modifiche che ho già apportato hanno aiutato molto. La mia ansia era perché stavo girando troppo numerosi piatti contemporaneamente, ma ora mi rendo conto che quando ne prendo uno alla volta, posso diventare di nuovo il mio vecchio e soddisfatto.

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